Showing posts with label blame. Show all posts
Showing posts with label blame. Show all posts

Monday, May 30, 2016

Feeling Angry? What to do with all that energy

Recently I have noticed an Undercurrent of anger and angst. It sits there with us throughout the day, sometimes barely beneath the surface. Our anger and angst is there to prompt us to action. The confusion comes when we are unsure of what action we are being guided towards.

When we remain conscious of this undercurrent of emotion we can choose our action instead of responding with a knee jerk reaction. We can also choose to acknowledge the impersonal nature of the emotions. When we don’t handle this energy in this way we tend to assign blame to someone or something outside ourselves. Maybe instead of asking ‘Why do I feel angry, anxious, sad?’ pose the question as ‘What is this emotion all about?’ or ‘What is this emotion trying to show me?’. When we ask Why our psyches and the Universe conspire to support our belief. We will be given the answer to our question. These answers are valid on some level, but not useful. It is our decision whether to become lost in the rabbit hole of downward spiraling thought processes, or to release the core issue.

Let’s collectively and individually make the decision not to FEED this emotion. When we feed it by finding reasons to justify the way we are feeling, we merely strengthen and solidify the experience in our energetic field. We can be aware of the emotions without feeding them. Like a stray cat the anger may still be in the neighborhood, but it will no longer be yowling at your front door. You want to find its rightful place and return it, not adopt it.

When I say not to feed the angst, I am not advocating stuffing your emotions and ignoring it. But rather to acknowledge its impersonal nature by letting it be impersonal, by not assigning blame or giving it direction. These types of emotional reactions can be pivotal in your spiritual growth.

What is this emotion trying to show you? Remember: It is NOT personal. So you may think that it is about your argument with your boss, or something similarly specific, but it is not. That may just be the trigger, the indicator that there is something deeper, bigger that requires your attention. Is this energy reflected elsewhere, like a theme running through your life at the moment? Maybe it isn’t really about your boss; maybe the issue is value and respect. Do others value and respect you? Since the outer is a reflection of the inner; Do you value and respect yourself? Are you true to yourself? Are you living an authentic life, being and authentic version of you?

I feel that this undercurrent of angst is a global call for authenticity. A wake up call for all of us to awaken to who we are and who we are meant to be; Awaken to the tapestry of the Universe, God, the All That Is. We are pieces in a puzzle, threads in a tapestry, equally important, equally responsible.

It is not about continuing to feed the angst and anger, negativity and frustration, but breaking through it. Rising about it to discover…you, the authentic, whole being of you.

Who are you really? Not the roles that you play or masks that you wear, not your job, or your past, or your hometown. Who are you? Why are you here? What do you hope to accomplish? It is time to climb out of the box you put yourself in and show us who you are at your core! 

Blessings!


Geralyn St Joseph
Wholistic University
Lancaster, PA 17554
808 261-7866
Geralyn@VoiceofSpirit.com

Monday, May 16, 2016

Are YOU throwing Pearls Before Swine?

Matthew 7:6
Amplified Bible (AMP)
Do not give that which is holy (the sacred thing) to the dogs, and do not throw your pearls before hogs, lest they trample upon them with their feet and turn and tear you in pieces.
For the past several months while dealing with a plethora of difficulties the lesson of ‘do not throw pearls before swine’ has been painfully brought to my attention.  Apparently this is a common theme right now as we are pushed to look of things as they are vs. what we hope them to be.
The current energetic pushes us to take off the rose colored glasses and deal with reality.  For most of us this means making a choice; do we continue to place our energy where there is no return on investment?  Everyone experiences this at some point in their lives with friends, lovers and family members.  We try our best to be supportive, lighten the load and create opportunities for loved ones only to be met with resistance, ungratefulness and sometimes even hostility and resentment.
This is the dynamic of which Jesus the Christ spoke in the Sermon on the Mount in Matthew 7:6
Do not give that which is holy (the sacred thing) to the dogs, and do not throw your pearls before hogs, lest they trample upon them with their feet and turn and tear you in pieces.
This leaves as confused and often upset, so we become more expansive, more compassionate, more loving only to be accused of being just the opposite.  We pour more of ourselves, our time and our energy into this person or situation only to be left drained and thankless.
The lesson here is to take these people or the situation at face value.  To recognize when we’re throwing pearls before swine.  I do not say a swine as a derogatory term, but rather as an example of where the person’s consciousness is at that time.
But what does that really mean?  The pearls that we throw are things of value to us; our time, efforts and love.  We are warned that the swine will trample these things in disregard.  Is this meant to hurt us?  Generally know, because they do not place value where we place value.  They are not in a place to accept or utilize our gifts.  We have all but in that place, where someone tries to help us and we’re not ready to move.  We have resistance to change and each of us needs to come to it in our own time.
However we also warned that in giving our most precious gifts to those incapable or unready or simply not willing to accept them that we then become targets of that frustration.  We have expended the best of us and thus depleted or energy, are supply, in whatever form that takes, leaving us weakened and vulnerable.  Thus we are rent and torn.
Especially in this time of major energetic shifts we need to ensure our pearls are thoughtfully exchanged.  This is a primary element of self-care.
This is not to say we only give what we can get back.  For instance, you may know someone who seems to need help.  If you help them this may go a variety of ways.  They may accept your help and seem very grateful, but continue to wallow in their situation and continue needing the same help.  If this is so, set your boundaries and do not become embroiled in their story.  Simply trying to solve their problem for them accomplishes nothing for anyone involved.  You need to accept after helping them that they are choosing their situation.  Maybe they are not ready for change no matter what you think of their potential.
In another scenario they may even resent your help.  Their low self-esteem and sense of being undeserving may cause them to become hostile towards you. 
Or they may accept your help and make a positive life change with your assistance, when this happens the energy continues in a positive tract and expands to affect others in a positive way.

The difference between sharing a pearl with someone who appreciates it and throwing your pearls before swine is that in helping someone who appreciates it you become stronger and they become stronger, however when you throw your pearls before swine you’re wasting your efforts. Everyone deserves a chance, everyone deserves a helping hand, but once that hand is slapped, you need to pull your hand away and not continue trying to help someone who does not want or appreciate your help.  Put your energy where it is most useful.
Blessings!

Geralyn St Joseph
Wholistic University
Lancaster, PA 17554
808 261-7866
Geralyn@VoiceofSpirit.com

Tuesday, July 21, 2015

let's be honest

“Let me never fall into the vulgar mistake
 of dreaming that 
I am persecuted whenever
 I am contradicted” 
Ralph Waldo Emerson

This needs to be seen, read and understood. 
Honest communication means that we will have points we do not agree on. 
This can lead to great conversations that can bring education and understanding of another's views. **Keep your hot temper and need to be correct to yourself. ** Discuss it. Drop all the 'political correctness' that only leads to derision. Stop looking to be offended by every innocuous comment. 

Be objective, listen, explain, learn, discuss.

In this time of division and derision let's be honest, open and willing to discuss. 
Not tolerance, but acceptance that we can all have different opinions. So long as we do no harm, know that it is okay.


In this time when our 'civilization' is built on division, let's choose UNITY. 
Blessings!


Geralyn St Joseph
Wholistic University
Lancaster, PA 17554
Pittsfield, ME 04967
808 261-7866
Geralyn@VoiceofSpirit.com

Saturday, May 30, 2015

Spiritual Journey – Anger and Us

Recently I have noticed an Undercurrent of anger and angst. It sits there with us throughout the day, sometimes barely beneath the surface. Our anger and angst is there to prompt us to action. The confusion comes when we are unsure of what action we are being guided towards.


When we remain conscious of this undercurrent of emotion we can choose our action instead of responding with a knee jerk reaction. We can also choose to acknowledge the impersonal nature of the emotions. When we don’t handle this energy in this way we tend to assign blame to someone or something outside ourselves. Maybe instead of asking ‘Why do I feel angry, anxious, sad?’ pose the question as ‘What is this emotion all about?’ or ‘What is this emotion trying to show me?’. When we ask Why our psyches and the Universe conspire to support our belief. We will be given the answer to our question. These answers are valid on some level, but not useful. It is our decision whether to become lost in the rabbit hole of downward spiraling thought processes, or to release the core issue.

Let’s collectively and individually make the decision not to FEED this emotion. When we feed it by finding reasons to justify the way we are feeling, we merely strengthen and solidify the experience in our energetic field. We can be aware of the emotions without feeding them. Like a stray cat the anger may still be in the neighborhood, but it will no longer be yowling at your front door. You want to find its rightful place and return it, not adopt it.

When I say not to feed the angst, I am not advocating stuffing your emotions and ignoring it. But rather to acknowledge its impersonal nature by letting it be impersonal, by not assigning blame or giving it direction. These types of emotional reactions can be pivotal in your spiritual growth.

What is this emotion trying to show you? Remember: It is NOT personal. So you may think that it is about your argument with your boss, or something similarly specific, but it is not. That may just be the trigger, the indicator that there is something deeper, bigger that requires your attention. Is this energy reflected elsewhere, like a theme running through your life at the moment? Maybe it isn’t really about your boss; maybe the issue is value and respect. Do others value and respect you? Since the outer is a reflection of the inner; Do you value and respect yourself? Are you true to yourself? Are you living an authentic life, being and authentic version of you?

I feel that this undercurrent of angst is a global call for authenticity. A wake up call for all of us to awaken to who we are and who we are meant to be; Awaken to the tapestry of the Universe, God, the All That Is. We are pieces in a puzzle, threads in a tapestry, equally important, equally responsible.

It is not about continuing to feed the angst and anger, negativity and frustration, but breaking through it. Rising about it to discover…you, the authentic, whole being of you.

Who are you really? Not the roles that you play or masks that you wear, not your job, or your past, or your hometown. Who are you? Why are you here? What do you hope to accomplish? It is time to climb out of the box you put yourself in and show us who you are at your core! 

Blessings!

Geralyn St Joseph
Wholistic University
Lancaster, PA 17554
808 261-7866
Geralyn@VoiceofSpirit.com

Saturday, December 8, 2012

When Families Attack! – Surviving Family Dynamics on Blog Talk Radio


Listen as Success Integration Coach Syd Vitale and Intuitive Relationship Coach Geralyn St Joseph discuss: When Families Attack! – Surviving Family Dynamics

Last week we discussed how Holiday Dinner is often one of the most stressful events of the year. Although the holidays can be hard, Family dynamics are there consistently and can rear its ugly head at any time.  It happens whether you are near your families or not – and it affects your relationship.

There’s nothing that will test your level of sanity more than sitting around a table sharing a meal together at the holidays. [Well, maybe a LONG road trip] You know CERTAIN THINGS will come up in conversation, AND embarrassing stories will be told…or worse, pictures will be shown. How do you handle it? What do you do if your partner is being embarrassed or harassed by family? How do you know what’s normal for them? And what’s REALLY a problem?

“They” say YOU can choose your friends, but you can’t choose your family.  [Ger has a different take on that which I know you’ll find as interesting/insightful as I do.]

So once you enter into a relationship with someone, you also enter into THEIR family relationship. What do you do if her family can’t stand you? AND they let you know it. What do you do if his family seems to like YOU better than HIM-and shows it with little vocal “barbs” at a family gathering? What will you do when everyone gets along—until “Crazy Uncle Bob” shows up and all hell breaks loose?

 I wonder just how many new coping skills you may learn by listening in to When Families Attack! – Surviving Family Dynamics …This show is gonna be fun!

Let Success Integration Coach Syd Vitale and Intuitive Relationship Coach Geralyn St Joseph lead you from limiting beliefs to limitless love!

Call Geralyn at            808 261-7866       email Geralyn@VoiceofSpirit.com
Call Syd  at            717 290-1736       email SydVitalePA@gmail.com


Geralyn St Joseph
Wholistic University
Lancaster, PA 17554
808 261-7866
Geralyn@VoiceofSpirit.com

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Families And The Holidays...Will Your Relationship Survive? 12/02 by Love Relationships with Syd Ger | Blog Talk Radio

Families And The Holidays...Will Your Relationship Survive? 12/02 by Love Relationships with Syd Ger | Blog Talk Radio

Listen as Success Integration Coach Syd Vitale and Intuitive Relationship Coach Geralyn St Joseph discuss  Families And The Holidays…How Can Your Relationship Possibly Survive?
It’s beginning to look a lot like Stress-mas!

The holidays bring up a really fun (or not) topic—Family Dynamics.  There’s nothing that will test your level of sanity more than sitting around a table sharing a meal together at the holidays. You know CERTAIN THINGS will come up in conversation. We are supposed to be thankful….AND, sometimes-maybe it doesn’t work out that way.

“They” say You can choose your friends, but you can’t choose your family.  Ger has a different take on that which I know you’ll find as interesting/insightful as I do.So once you enter into a relationship with someone, you also enter into THEIR family relationship. What do you do if her family can’t stand you? What do you do if his family seems to like YOU better than HIM-and shows it with little vocal “barbs” at a family gathering? What will you do when everyone gets along—until “Crazy Uncle Bob” shows up at the turkey dinner?I wonder just how many new coping skills you may learn by listening in…Grab hold of your giblets & hang on tight, this show is gonna be fun!

Let Success Integration Coach Syd Vitale and Intuitive Relationship Coach Geralyn St Joseph lead you from limiting beliefs to limitless love!


Call Geralyn at 808 261-7866 email Geralyn@VoiceofSpirit.com
Call Syd  at 717 290-1736 email SydVitalePA@gmail.com



Geralyn St Joseph
Wholistic University
Lancaster, PA 17554
808 261-7866
Geralyn@VoiceofSpirit.com

Friday, November 2, 2012

Now for 5 GOOD reasons to be alone by Love Relationships with Syd Ger | Blog Talk Radio

Now for 5 GOOD reasons to be alone 09/23 by Love Relationships with Syd Ger | Blog Talk Radio


Listen as Success Integration Coach Syd Vitale and Intuitive Relationship Coach Geralyn St Joseph discuss 5 GOOD Reasons To Be Alone.  Last time we talked about 5 reasons you are alone. That was based on the premise that you wanted to be in a relationship but maybe there were things keeping you from being ready (perhaps even on an unconscious level).  During this session, we’re going to take a look at some of the good, valid reasons to spend some time by yourself.
Join Success Integration Coach Syd Vitale and Intuitive Relationship Coach Geralyn St Joseph to discuss 5 GOOD Reasons To Be Alone.
Let Success Integration Coach Syd Vitale and Intuitive Relationship Coach Geralyn St Joseph lead you from limiting beliefs to limitless love!
Visit www.WholisticUniversity.org for more info
Call Geralyn at            808 261-7866       email Geralyn@VoiceofSpirit.com
Call Syd  at            717 290-1736       email SydVitalePA@gmail.com


Geralyn St Joseph
Wholistic University
Lancaster, PA 17554
808 261-7866
Geralyn@VoiceofSpirit.com

Testing Our Relationships 10/28 by Love Relationships with Syd Ger | Blog Talk Radio

Testing Our Relationships by Love Relationships with Syd Ger | Blog Talk Radio


Whether we want to admit it or not, we ALL test our relationships. We need to know what we are building towards and if our partner has what it takes to stand by us. Some people will actually manipulate or create situations, while others will use what comes up naturally and simply watch your natural reactions.
We need to know how our partners react to stress, if they will support us in difficult times and if they help us with our own stress. 
Listen in to learn more...



Geralyn St Joseph
Wholistic University
Lancaster, PA 17554
808 261-7866
Geralyn@VoiceofSpirit.com

Thursday, August 2, 2012

Relationship Tool Kit- 3 Tools for Relationship Repair by Love Relationships with Syd Ger | Blog Talk Radio

Relationship Tool Kit- 3 Tools for Relationship Repair 07/21 by Love Relationships with Syd Ger | Blog Talk Radio

Listen as Success Integration Coach Syd Vitale and Intuitive Relationship Coach Geralyn St Joseph discuss: Your Relationship Tool Kit - 3 Must Have Tools for Relationship Repair.

Last week we discussed improving rapport in your love relationship, but what happens when it inevitably breaks down? We all have moments of uncertainty and misunderstanding. It doesn’t have to become a major issue or downturn in your relationship. You just need a few tools…

Join Success Integration Coach Syd Vitale and Intuitive Relationship Coach Geralyn St Joseph to discuss Your Relationship Tool Kit - 3 Must Have Tools for Relationship Repair.

There are many ways to overcome adversity in a relationship, but today we are going to discuss 3. Use these three powerful tools to strengthen your love relationship and bring harmony into your life. Live better, Love longer and Laugh louder!

Let Success Integration Coach Syd Vitale and Intuitive Relationship Coach Geralyn St Joseph lead you from limiting beliefs to limitless love!

Visit www.WholisticUniversity.org for more info
Call Geralyn at 808 261-7866 email Geralyn@VoiceofSpirit.com
Syd Vitale SydVitalePA@gmail.com
Call in with comments and questions during show time  (646) 478-4455


Geralyn St Joseph
Wholistic University
Lancaster, PA 17554
808 261-7866
Geralyn@VoiceofSpirit.com

Your Love List- Deciding What You Need VS What You Want by Love Relationships with Syd Ger | Blog Talk Radio

Your Love List- Deciding What You Need VS What You Want 06/17 by Love Relationships with Syd Ger | Blog Talk Radio

Most people seeking Love and Relationship advice have heard of 'The List'. You have to create your list of qualities that you want in your next romantic partner. However, what you want from a lover and what you need from a life partner and love relationship may not be the same thing. How deep should you go? How detailed does your Love List need to be? What should be on your Love List? And Why?
Join Success Integration Coach Syd Vitale and Intuitive Relationship Coach Geralyn St Joseph as they discuss 'The List'. What it is, what it is not and what it can do for you. Love doesn't need to be a guessing game. Stop guessing about your relationship, your partner, your love life, start choosing the love and relationship you crave.

Success Integration Coach Syd Vitale and Intuitive Relationship Coach Geralyn St Joseph Lead You From Limiting Beliefs to Limitless Love!

For more information on Success Integration Coach Syd Vitale and Intuitive Relationship Coach Geralyn St Joseph visit http://www.WholisticUniversity.org

Contact us with questions, comments and show suggestions. Look for us on Facebook

SydVitalePA@gmail.com
Geralyn@VoiceofSpirit.com

Geralyn St Joseph
Wholistic University
Lancaster, PA 17554
808 261-7866
Geralyn@VoiceofSpirit.com

Wednesday, June 20, 2012

The Roadblocks and Warning Signs on the Road to Love - the Deal Breakers of Love Relationships


 The Roadblocks and Warning Signs on the Road to Love - the Deal Breakers of Love Relationships


Listen as Success Integration Coach Syd Vitale and Intuitive Relationship Coach Geralyn St Joseph discuss:


Just as important as knowing what are absolute haves in a relationship, is knowing what your deal breakers are. These are things we can absolutely NOT live with. These are the relationship destroyers. What may be a deal breaker for you, may be okay for others.

How do we find out if our deal breakers are present in our relationships early and make sure we steer clear of being involved with the people who exhibit these behaviors?

Join Success Integration Coach Syd Vitale and Intuitive Relationship Coach Geralyn St Joseph to discuss The Roadblocks and Warning Signs on the Road to Love - the Deal Breakers of Love Relationships.

Let Success Integration Coach Syd Vitale and Intuitive Relationship Coach Geralyn St Joseph lead you from limiting beliefs to limitless love!
 
Call Geralyn at 808 261-7866 email Geralyn@VoiceofSpirit.com
Syd Vitale at SydVitalePA@gmail.com
Call in with comments and questions during show time  (646) 478-4455

This program can be listened to live Saturday, 6/23 at 10a ET, or as a podcast after show time. This show usually airs on Sunday afternoons.

Geralyn St Joseph
Wholistic University
Lancaster, PA 17554
808 261-7866
Geralyn@VoiceofSpirit.com

Saturday, June 9, 2012

Love and the Blame Game 06/10 by Love Relationships with Syd Ger | Blog Talk Radio

Listen as Success Integration Coach Syd Vitale and Intuitive Relationship Coach Geralyn St Joseph discuss Love and the Blame Game. Are you just SO frustrated with your partner? Dissatisfied with your love relationship. Not sure if you want to save your marriage, or if your marriage CAN be saved? Let Success Integration Coach Syd Vitale and Intuitive Relationship Coach Geralyn St Joseph help you take the Blame Game out of your relationship.
Success Integration Coach Syd Vitale and Intuitive Relationship Coach Geralyn St Joseph each have very different backgrounds, approaches and ideas. Syd Vitale gives a man's perspective. Geralyn St Joseph speaks as a modern, independent woman. They are partners in every sense. They just might be able to help you figure this Love thing out.
For more information visit: www.WholisticUniversity.org
Or contact them with questions and/or comments at:
Syd Vitale - SydVitalePA@gmail.com
Geralyn St Joseph - Geralyn@VoiceofSpirit.com


Love and the Blame Game 06/10 by Love Relationships with Syd Ger | Blog Talk Radio

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Geralyn St Joseph
Wholistic University
Lancaster, PA 17554
808 261-7866
Geralyn@VoiceofSpirit.com